The importance of positive communication in the couple

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Imagine that your words are like Legos used to build your relationship. You add a Lego every time you say something positive, encouraging. With each criticism, you remove a Lego. If you were to build a castle out of Lego, using the words you use today in your relationship, do you think how long it would take you to build it?

This image to illustrate yourself and give you an idea of ​​the importance of employing positive communication within your relationship. For children’s brain development and to promote well-being and happiness are encouraged by validating and reinforcing positive behaviors. Why should it stop once we get to adulthood?

Throughout our lives, our brains function like a sponge. We adapt based on experiences and we are constantly learning. If our experiences are positive, we react and build our life in a positive way. Conversely, if everything we experience, everything we hear is negative, we eventually collapse after resisting for a while. For couples, it is important to be a positive person and to speak positively to their other half.

What is positive communication within a couple?

I bring you some advice and concrete examples, which you can test within your relationship. As often as possible, put them into practice so that they become automatic. Sow what you will be able to harvest. Positive communication will impact the quality of your romantic relationship.

You like it ? tell her often “I LOVE YOU”!

Of course, your loved one knows that you love him! But needless to say how nice it is to hear it from your mouth. Saying “I love you” reinforces the feeling. For many, however, it is not easy to express their feelings. Step out of your comfort zone and fully declare your love will take on its full meaning. Telling him will make him happy and make his heart beat faster. Telling him “I love you” will make him realize how much you care.

Be enthusiastic about MEETINGS

After a day of work, or even just two hours of separation, feel free to greet your spouse with genuine joy. Make a point of kissing, hugging, and saying “hello” to your other half. In this way, you show him that he is loved, wanted. These small gestures that give this feeling of belonging. In this way, you will make him happy to come home and to know that he is expected.

Encouragement and support

Have you never heard your parents go into ecstasies over your childhood drawings? And why not encourage our spouse in the same way? Be realistic and don’t give false hope. Simply, expressing your admiration for the chosen one of your heart will be both liberating and powerful! Just a “thank you for that dinner, it was very good” costs you nothing, but will be felt very positively! This is a win-win system, the key to positive communication within your relationship.

Paying attention and listening TO THE OTHER

Wait until he (she) is finished speaking before you even want to give the answer or advice. Sometimes it is enough to just be present by listening, listening attentively. Sometimes our spouse does not expect an adviser, just a confidant. Listen without thinking about the solution you can provide. The offer of advice will only be made if your spouse does not expressly ask you to do so. And in this case, ask questions in order to get him to come up with the formulation of his answer. We are talking about active listening, which is a powerful communication tool! Use it in your relationship! We all know disagreements in our couples!

Depending on the way we behave when the disagreement arises, it will quickly be felt either positively or negatively on the couple. Example of everyday life, couples with children. We do not always agree with each other on how to educate their child. Instead of raising your voice, or cutting off the other, try to listen and find a compromise that can be accepted by both! It is useless to make your opinion heard, to impose your choices or to coerce your partner. By finding the compromise, you will show respect and kindness. Two fundamental values ​​that will maintain a positive relationship within your couple. Thus, your positive behavior will influence the quality of your relationships with each member of your family, and the way they treat others!

Today, you are experiencing difficulties within your relationship. Communication is broken with the chosen one of your heart. Before you think about breaking your ties, what if you’re trying to get back on track?