Have you ever fled before any prospect of change promised to a certain failure? To dread events where you could be exposed to other people’s eyes and their criticism? Or to be paralyzed in the face of a situation that you were unfamiliar with?
If you recognize yourself in one (or more) of these situations, then you have probably already felt this powerful emotion that is called fear. Fear is a bit like your worst enemy: she doesn’t want you to be good.
On the contrary, she will do everything to keep locked in your comfort zone and to prevent you from evolving…
Which means that as long as it’s there, you won’t be able to be really yourself and realize yourself. Sad reality, isn’t it? Rest assured, there are solutions to detach from it and give it much less importance in your life.
In today’s article, I propose you to discover 3 stages that have proved their worth and that will allow you to free your “enemy”. Here we go!
Step 1: understand your fears
Fear is above all an emotion that comes to warn you that you are facing what your brain will interpret as being a danger, that is, something that is likely to go wrong and that you absolutely want to avoid. Its role is therefore to keep you in your comfort zone to preserve you from the failure and the suffering that accompanies it.
What you need to know: fear is only a projection of your mind: quite often it does not correspond to reality.
The next time you feel unsafe, I invite you to analyze what is going on in you: what exactly scares you? What do you think could happen?
Precisely identifying what you are anxious about can help you find strategies to bypass it.
Step 2: calm your fears
As we have seen above, fear can be very invasive, to the point of taking control of your whole body (through your emotions) but also of your mind (you know what they say: a negative thought attracts others).
So she will do everything to remind you as often as possible that she may be popping up at any moment. “Fear of fear” will eventually settle down and you won’t be able to think about anything else.
What you need to know: body and mind are closely related: If you feel physically (and emotionally) wrong then you will be morally feeling it.
The good news is that it works the other way too!
So I suggest you think about the method that suits you best to relieve stress and concentrate on the essentials: Yoga, meditation, sophrology…
By focusing your attention on your body, you will help your mind to focus on the present moment and to detach from your fears.
Step 3: tame your fears
What makes fear so vicious is that it succeeds very well in making you believe that it has control of the situation and to avoid you to confront another reality than your own (“I think it will go wrong so this is what will happen”).
By drowning in a wave of emotions that you don’t understand, she leaves you no choice but to take your legs to your neck… Thus passing many opportunities to flourish and live your life to the fullest.
What you need to know: behind every fear, there is a need that expresses itself and asks to be respected: that of being sustained, of feeling free, of being realized…
So your fears are in a few kinds of valuable indicators on the values you need to (re) place at the heart of your life. By learning to listen to them, you will end up giving them less importance and you will be able to take a more positive look at what you are experiencing.